Soft Skills are Not a Weakness

The subject of soft skills really hit home for because I have always been considered “too sensitive,” by others. I tend to care about people’s opinions, but I also try to understand people’s reactions, whether they are negative or positive. I make it a habit to remember not only birthday’s but also favorite colors or foods or needs or anything that I think could be put to good use later when someone is feeling down or celebrating something. I also love helping people even if it happens to be “out of my way,” and I don’t feel comfortable with people paying me for making things like earrings or cards or anything I craft. I love to give; I know that I can always make more and I am happy to put in the time.

So needless to say, I have soft skills and people have called me weak because of it but researching this module has shown me that soft skills are needed and appreciated. When Gill Corkindale mentioned how she had to transition from grieving to coming back to work after losing a loved one so suddenly I knew could relate (Corkindale, 2011). I lost my grandma in December on the cusp of winter break and have been struggling emotionally since her passing, but I knew that she would not want me to drop out of school and it felt like quitting. However, thanks to the kindness I have received from my professors and fellow colleagues I have been able to push on. And although I love this class and had so many ideas for my Virtual Symposium assignment I changed it because I was not in a place where I could execute my assignment in a way that truly showcased my learning so I decided to “take a breath,” as professor Stephens mentioned and be kind to myself. I am still grieving, and it is not a fast process, especially during these times where I cannot see my other family members and with Mother’s Day just around the corner. This is something very important that I have learned because if I am not in the right mindset, I can become a crappy coworker, an upset wife, and an nonparticipating student. So remember, be kind to yourself so that you can pass that kindness to others instead of taking out jumbled feelings out on others. And know that if others don’t know what you are going through then they cannot help you. This was hard for me at first, I didn’t not want my professors to think I was lazy or weak because I had to ask for more time to finish things because I’d be typing one minute and crying the next but once I reached out it made things a little better and not so alone.

I also enjoyed the article that mentioned the flight attendant that tried to understand what a “nasty passenger,” might be going through instead of assuming that he was a bad person she thought, maybe he’s a nice person going through a rough time (Gershon, 2017). This of course led me to remember some quotes I collected on Pinterest which I refer to during tough times which I will now share with you all.

I started the MLIS program because I wanted to become a librarian to help people and to be closer to books and the only thing that has changed is that I know the library itself could use a little love too. I wish you all the best. Thank you all for making this class a great one.

References

Corkindale, G. (2011, April 18). The Importance of Kindness at Work. Retrieved from https://hbr.org/2011/04/the-importance-of-kindness-at

Gershon, L. (2017, June 22). The key to jobs in the future is not college but compassion – Livia Gershon: Aeon Essays. Retrieved from https://aeon.co/essays/the-key-to-jobs-in-the-future-is-not-college-but-compassion

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  1. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Thank you for sharing. School is hard enough without having to deal with losing a family member on to of it.

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